Memories of high school years unfold before us, as we, Class "68 of the Universidad de Sta. Isabel, come together for the Grand Reunion and Ruby Jubilee Celebration.
If in our school days we were separated by sections, classroom walls, seating arrangements, this time, nothing separates us. Nothing can draw us apart. Not even the vast continents of the Americas, Europe, Asia and Australia, where many of us have migrated, discovered great fortunes, launched successful careers and found undying loves and romance. For, what could separate us? With our computers, and cellphones, we are just an email and text away, exchanging greetings, emails, pictures or simply the mood for the day. In good times, batchmates all over the globe rejoice. In difficult times they are out there praying and sending comforting words of strength and encouragement.
As move from Pear to Coral to Ruby, we realized that the volume, mass and weight of our bodies have changed to some degree. Gray hairs and fine lines have started to appear. Knees may shake a little. But definitely, the most essential and endearing things that bind us remain utterly unchanged. This is our bond of friendship---a friendship that transcends time and distance. A friendship that is as ageless as the memories that linger on even after the strains of our College Hymn have faded in glory on the Graduation Night of 1968.
It does no take a calendared alumni homecoming event to bring us together. Every time anyone of us is home is always a homecoming... to make us feel that "you're never quite alone, even when you're so far from home". It is always an occasion to bond, to welcome, to share.
Memories are endless. From the sweet Kindergarten teacher, who was our timeless epitome of love to the English, Math and Spanish mentors who opened our hearts and minds to the amazing world of science, and the finer things in life depicted in arts, poetry and literature. Many of us turned artists, writers, performers and little scientists, competing with excellence in these fields.
For the deluge of inspiration, affection and discipline, we are what we are today---doctors, nurses, accountants, teachers, administrators in government and private institutions, engineers, researchers, professors of higher learning or housewives devoted to home and family. The glamour and splendor of the world may have influenced us to some extent. But deep inside us, we are still the same giggling and shrieking "Isabelina" whose devotion to timeless values remain unchanged through the years.
Priceless and majestic as the gem itself, we, the Ruby Jubilarians, will continue to shine wherever life leads us. And wherever each one of us might be, we will continue to be there for each other, holding on together.
So, in celebration of our Ruby year, we toast to a friendship that has stood the test of time. Indeed, "long friendships are like jewels, polished over time to become more beautiful and enduring."
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Tuesday, 16 October 2012
A Weapon of Survival
Never mind who I am or where I came from. The topic is you... my fellow humans. Just look at the sky, imagine for a moment the vast and compatible scheme we call planets. Indeed, there is no chaos. But eons of surviving harmony, thoughtfully, allowing moments of peace and tranquility.
No doubts that, back on Earth, similar moments can be mirrored when love is adhered to bond human affairs.
An Irish-born author -C.S. Lewis once said: "Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art... It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival."
In the meantime just gaze around, millions of you differently looking at each other. Needless to say. My dress is like yours too, with the garment of flesh and other parts corresponding to a human being!
Excuse me, those were tense words of a happy surprise, a moment of realization.
It does not matter, nevetheless, whether you are Mr. Rich or Mr. Poor, Mr. Left or Mr. Right, Mr. Good or Mr. Bad, Mr. or Ms. Beauty, Mr. Muslim or Mr. Christian, atheist or not, Black or White, John or Juan... you are all parts of a longest endurable specie... that is, the "human race".
One may ponders if there is a common denominator? Perhaps some supreme factor that helps us remain members of the family of men?
Fortunately, answers abound in the memory of some Angels of love who left a trail of love, and words of advise for us to follow.
Such messengers dwelled among us! This time was a woman whose "sight and hearing" orphanhood was only a vacuum which she brilliantly crossed to become... a tense activist in political correctness... a lectures on Gratitude... and an inspirational author She was Hellen Keller (just realized... so many "L's" in her name!)... a symbol of love and survival. Those sentiments were best expressed in her wise words... "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart."
Every epoch has its worthwhile episodes especially when love becomes the best tool of survival at hand.
Glad to say, despite its turbulence, the 80's were well aware that real love and kindness were trusted tools for daily survival. That is why Michael Landon became the epic of "Highway to Heaven." Millions familiarly gathered weekly to watch a human-disguised Angel resolves otherwise painfull and problematic moments.
As you saw, Michael or Jonathan Smith -the gusto is yours- "was an angel sent from Heaven to induce people help each other." Fictional as it was, Michael Landon TV serie innermost script emerged from a vivid experience of his own.
After witnessing in sadness outburst of anger displayed in Los Angeles City's jam-packed highways, he verbally mused how better the world could be exchanging anger for love. He was truly a messenger of love.
Still, there were others like Mother Teresa spreading to "poors" love as the real wealth in a loving heart. Just as she showed in her 87 years among us. Faith was her strength. Remember Mahatma Ghandi's words? "Whenever you are confronted with an enemy... Conquer him with love." Are not words of survival? Of course there is one who gave his earthly life in exchange for mankind eternal survival. He is still called -JesusChrist.
Lastly, love appears to be that inherent force which attracts humans together in times of survival; a very powerful tool, it is.
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No doubts that, back on Earth, similar moments can be mirrored when love is adhered to bond human affairs.
An Irish-born author -C.S. Lewis once said: "Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art... It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival."
In the meantime just gaze around, millions of you differently looking at each other. Needless to say. My dress is like yours too, with the garment of flesh and other parts corresponding to a human being!
Excuse me, those were tense words of a happy surprise, a moment of realization.
It does not matter, nevetheless, whether you are Mr. Rich or Mr. Poor, Mr. Left or Mr. Right, Mr. Good or Mr. Bad, Mr. or Ms. Beauty, Mr. Muslim or Mr. Christian, atheist or not, Black or White, John or Juan... you are all parts of a longest endurable specie... that is, the "human race".
One may ponders if there is a common denominator? Perhaps some supreme factor that helps us remain members of the family of men?
Fortunately, answers abound in the memory of some Angels of love who left a trail of love, and words of advise for us to follow.
Such messengers dwelled among us! This time was a woman whose "sight and hearing" orphanhood was only a vacuum which she brilliantly crossed to become... a tense activist in political correctness... a lectures on Gratitude... and an inspirational author She was Hellen Keller (just realized... so many "L's" in her name!)... a symbol of love and survival. Those sentiments were best expressed in her wise words... "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart."
Every epoch has its worthwhile episodes especially when love becomes the best tool of survival at hand.
Glad to say, despite its turbulence, the 80's were well aware that real love and kindness were trusted tools for daily survival. That is why Michael Landon became the epic of "Highway to Heaven." Millions familiarly gathered weekly to watch a human-disguised Angel resolves otherwise painfull and problematic moments.
As you saw, Michael or Jonathan Smith -the gusto is yours- "was an angel sent from Heaven to induce people help each other." Fictional as it was, Michael Landon TV serie innermost script emerged from a vivid experience of his own.
After witnessing in sadness outburst of anger displayed in Los Angeles City's jam-packed highways, he verbally mused how better the world could be exchanging anger for love. He was truly a messenger of love.
Still, there were others like Mother Teresa spreading to "poors" love as the real wealth in a loving heart. Just as she showed in her 87 years among us. Faith was her strength. Remember Mahatma Ghandi's words? "Whenever you are confronted with an enemy... Conquer him with love." Are not words of survival? Of course there is one who gave his earthly life in exchange for mankind eternal survival. He is still called -JesusChrist.
Lastly, love appears to be that inherent force which attracts humans together in times of survival; a very powerful tool, it is.
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Conversation Starters - Are You The One At The Party That Has The Red Face?
Not everybody can be the life of the party. There will be others who will be the wallflower, the odd man out, and the one with the red face. But why let yourself be none other than the life of the party - or at the very least, the life of your social group - especially when you have great conversation starters at the ready?
Well, of course, you should also come into the party not just with great party conversation starters but with a good appearance and a good attitude as well. The ability to attract friends like bees to honey comes from being a total package.
Be on Your Best Physical Appearance
This is commonsense advice. You cannot expect fellow guests and the party host to come anywhere near you with a ten-foot pole when you look and smell like an unwashed hobo. This is true even when you have the best conversation starters in the history of mankind. You will not only be red-faced but you will also be getting red-hot looks of disdain coming from your fellow guests, which will make for plenty of awkward approaches on your part.
So, before coming to any party, be sure to take a bath with soap and water, dress in the most appropriate clothes for the party (i.e., smart casual, formal, casual), comb your hair and spray on a good perfume/cologne. If you are a woman, apply just the right amount of makeup to highlight your best assets. Doing so will make you feel confident about your appearance and confident about your reception when you start throwing your conversation starters, so to speak.
Be on Your Best Mood
You should complement your good physical appearance with your good mood. It simply will not do to come into a party in a bad mood, which was caused by something unrelated to the guests, the host and the purpose of the party itself. You cannot vent your ire, frustration and anger unto your fellow guests who are in the party to have a good time.
Plus, you will be unable to deliver your conversation starters in the best possible way when you are in a bad mood. Cheer up, smile and forget your troubles on the outside while focusing on the good times you are about to have inside the party. Yes, it also pays to choose which of your party conversation starters you will use in advance, which can put you in a good mood, too, such as a funny joke.
Be as Early as Possible
The best conversation starters are just a start toward becoming accepted into a social group during parties but it is the best start. We suggest coming in early so that you will have an easier time approaching the few early birds and then making a good impression on them.
Just talk to them with your party conversation starters as your initial approach. Crack jokes, tell anecdotes and ask open-ended questions of whoever is in front of you at the moment. Listen to what they have to say as well so that your basic conversation starters become the start of a more meaningful exchange of ideas.
When the place gets packed, you will be the first person on the minds of your first friends during the party as the jolly good fellow who made them smile and laugh. And that is when you can paint the place red, so to speak, because you now have a set of friends instead of being the red-faced wallflower.
Get started on your conversation starters now and you, too, will soon find yourself in the enviable position of the life of your social group!
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Well, of course, you should also come into the party not just with great party conversation starters but with a good appearance and a good attitude as well. The ability to attract friends like bees to honey comes from being a total package.
Be on Your Best Physical Appearance
This is commonsense advice. You cannot expect fellow guests and the party host to come anywhere near you with a ten-foot pole when you look and smell like an unwashed hobo. This is true even when you have the best conversation starters in the history of mankind. You will not only be red-faced but you will also be getting red-hot looks of disdain coming from your fellow guests, which will make for plenty of awkward approaches on your part.
So, before coming to any party, be sure to take a bath with soap and water, dress in the most appropriate clothes for the party (i.e., smart casual, formal, casual), comb your hair and spray on a good perfume/cologne. If you are a woman, apply just the right amount of makeup to highlight your best assets. Doing so will make you feel confident about your appearance and confident about your reception when you start throwing your conversation starters, so to speak.
Be on Your Best Mood
You should complement your good physical appearance with your good mood. It simply will not do to come into a party in a bad mood, which was caused by something unrelated to the guests, the host and the purpose of the party itself. You cannot vent your ire, frustration and anger unto your fellow guests who are in the party to have a good time.
Plus, you will be unable to deliver your conversation starters in the best possible way when you are in a bad mood. Cheer up, smile and forget your troubles on the outside while focusing on the good times you are about to have inside the party. Yes, it also pays to choose which of your party conversation starters you will use in advance, which can put you in a good mood, too, such as a funny joke.
Be as Early as Possible
The best conversation starters are just a start toward becoming accepted into a social group during parties but it is the best start. We suggest coming in early so that you will have an easier time approaching the few early birds and then making a good impression on them.
Just talk to them with your party conversation starters as your initial approach. Crack jokes, tell anecdotes and ask open-ended questions of whoever is in front of you at the moment. Listen to what they have to say as well so that your basic conversation starters become the start of a more meaningful exchange of ideas.
When the place gets packed, you will be the first person on the minds of your first friends during the party as the jolly good fellow who made them smile and laugh. And that is when you can paint the place red, so to speak, because you now have a set of friends instead of being the red-faced wallflower.
Get started on your conversation starters now and you, too, will soon find yourself in the enviable position of the life of your social group!
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5 Keys to Building Better Relationships
At the base of every solid structue is a firm foundation.Any structure, group, organization, or relationship has to be built on a solid foundation in order to survive. It doesn't matter how much time you spend strengthening the 'above ground ' structure, if you fail to lay a solid foundation. One of my favoite Bible verses was written by King David:
Psalm 127:1 - Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who builds it.
Foundations are designed to withstand and transfer; weight, downward pressure, and stress from the structure. Foundations when designed and installed properly will transfer the destructive forces that can destroy structures into the surrounding soil and other areas than will reduce or eliminate the possibility of catastrophe. Proper foundations are the first step to building better relationships. Let's look at four additional ways to build better relationships.
Compassion, Caring, Consideration, Kindness...
Compassion
can be described as caring to the point of empathy. Considering the feelings of those we are in relationships with to the point of feeling the things they face. Patiently enduring trying and difficult situations with those closest to you can take a toll on endurance if you fail to practice the art of compassion.
1 Corinthians 13... Love hopes, believes, endures all things; Love never fails
Caring
and looking out for your own personal interests can strengthen a relationship or erode and diminish it to a heap of ashes if neglected. Caring is something that must be deliberately thought about and practiced; especially if everyone is busy and moving at a fast stressful pace. A simple kind thought, gesture or word can go along way to penetrate the dark places of loneliness, anger, and fear.
It's a challenge to be caring, considerate, kind to those you are around all of the time, especially when some are angry, mean spirited and down right hateful!
Consideration -
in my opinion one of the best ways to define and characterize consideration for others:
Phillipians 2:4 - Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.
Finally, but not least in importance Kindness.
Kindness is not a synonym for enabling or excusing wrong behaviors, it is though synonymous for 'love in action. Kindness can be displayed in both great and small acts of genuine love, and concern fo others; especially those you are in relationship with.
Again, a Scripture reference says it best:
John 15:33 - Greater Love has no man than this, that one lay down his life for his friends
Foundations, Compassion, Caring, Consideration, and Kindness. It's never too late to start, but if you wait too late, it may be too late to finish.
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Psalm 127:1 - Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who builds it.
Foundations are designed to withstand and transfer; weight, downward pressure, and stress from the structure. Foundations when designed and installed properly will transfer the destructive forces that can destroy structures into the surrounding soil and other areas than will reduce or eliminate the possibility of catastrophe. Proper foundations are the first step to building better relationships. Let's look at four additional ways to build better relationships.
Compassion, Caring, Consideration, Kindness...
Compassion
can be described as caring to the point of empathy. Considering the feelings of those we are in relationships with to the point of feeling the things they face. Patiently enduring trying and difficult situations with those closest to you can take a toll on endurance if you fail to practice the art of compassion.
1 Corinthians 13... Love hopes, believes, endures all things; Love never fails
Caring
and looking out for your own personal interests can strengthen a relationship or erode and diminish it to a heap of ashes if neglected. Caring is something that must be deliberately thought about and practiced; especially if everyone is busy and moving at a fast stressful pace. A simple kind thought, gesture or word can go along way to penetrate the dark places of loneliness, anger, and fear.
It's a challenge to be caring, considerate, kind to those you are around all of the time, especially when some are angry, mean spirited and down right hateful!
Consideration -
in my opinion one of the best ways to define and characterize consideration for others:
Phillipians 2:4 - Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.
Finally, but not least in importance Kindness.
Kindness is not a synonym for enabling or excusing wrong behaviors, it is though synonymous for 'love in action. Kindness can be displayed in both great and small acts of genuine love, and concern fo others; especially those you are in relationship with.
Again, a Scripture reference says it best:
John 15:33 - Greater Love has no man than this, that one lay down his life for his friends
Foundations, Compassion, Caring, Consideration, and Kindness. It's never too late to start, but if you wait too late, it may be too late to finish.
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Best Friend Philosophy
If you have one best friend you are lucky. If you have at least a couple of best friends then you are blessed, but when you have several or many best friends then you must be a true friend.
TRUE Friendship is based on... TRUST that's built from HONESTY, while LOYALTY stems from INTEGRITY, and RESPECT is the ultimate spice! Have these traits and characters in YOURSELF and with your friends and you have the formula of a TRUE Friendship that will last a Lifetime!
I want to surround myself with best friends. Having true best friends means I never have to worry about turning my back towards them and feeling vulnerable. With a best friend there is total utmost respect for each other. I've found that in any relationship whether it be in business, family, marriage or friends, once the respect is gone then there's no longer a relationship. And once the respect has been broken and compromised it's very difficult to get it back, if you ever do. I feel that respect is the most important factor for any relationship to flourish. In my observations, there is actually more respect present in best friends than there is in most marriages, family members, friends and co-workers.
A true sign of having a best friend is during an emergency or in a time of need. I call them flat tire friends as they are always there for you not just when you get a flat tire or need help but any time you need them, even if you just need an ear or a sounding board. When you're in need and you call them they don't ask why or contemplate and find excuses. They drop what they're doing and they are there for you.
Years ago when I lived in Fairfield, California a friend who was stationed in and just came back from Korea called me at 10 pm and asked me to pick him up. I asked him when and where? He replied "right now in Los Angeles, California. I didn't ask why or tell him to take a flight or a train or a bus. I asked for the address and told him to wait for me and that I'm on my way. I then called another best friend and told him I was on my way to L.A. to pick up a friend and without questions or hesitation he said come pick me up and we went on our way. One of my other best friends from Virginia Beach, Virginia came to California to visit me one summer. She told me her best friend lived in Las Vegas and asked me to drive her there. The next day we were on a twelve hour drive to visit her friend... Now that's TRUE friendship!
Not everyone knows how to be a best friend even when they say they are. Best friends are unconditional, reciprocal and not a tit for tat arrangement.
So remember this...
TRUE Friendship is based on... TRUST that's built from HONESTY, while LOYALTY stems from INTEGRITY, and RESPECT is the ultimate spice! Have these traits and characters in YOURSELF and with your friends and you have the formula of a TRUE Friendship that will last a Lifetime!
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TRUE Friendship is based on... TRUST that's built from HONESTY, while LOYALTY stems from INTEGRITY, and RESPECT is the ultimate spice! Have these traits and characters in YOURSELF and with your friends and you have the formula of a TRUE Friendship that will last a Lifetime!
I want to surround myself with best friends. Having true best friends means I never have to worry about turning my back towards them and feeling vulnerable. With a best friend there is total utmost respect for each other. I've found that in any relationship whether it be in business, family, marriage or friends, once the respect is gone then there's no longer a relationship. And once the respect has been broken and compromised it's very difficult to get it back, if you ever do. I feel that respect is the most important factor for any relationship to flourish. In my observations, there is actually more respect present in best friends than there is in most marriages, family members, friends and co-workers.
A true sign of having a best friend is during an emergency or in a time of need. I call them flat tire friends as they are always there for you not just when you get a flat tire or need help but any time you need them, even if you just need an ear or a sounding board. When you're in need and you call them they don't ask why or contemplate and find excuses. They drop what they're doing and they are there for you.
Years ago when I lived in Fairfield, California a friend who was stationed in and just came back from Korea called me at 10 pm and asked me to pick him up. I asked him when and where? He replied "right now in Los Angeles, California. I didn't ask why or tell him to take a flight or a train or a bus. I asked for the address and told him to wait for me and that I'm on my way. I then called another best friend and told him I was on my way to L.A. to pick up a friend and without questions or hesitation he said come pick me up and we went on our way. One of my other best friends from Virginia Beach, Virginia came to California to visit me one summer. She told me her best friend lived in Las Vegas and asked me to drive her there. The next day we were on a twelve hour drive to visit her friend... Now that's TRUE friendship!
Not everyone knows how to be a best friend even when they say they are. Best friends are unconditional, reciprocal and not a tit for tat arrangement.
So remember this...
TRUE Friendship is based on... TRUST that's built from HONESTY, while LOYALTY stems from INTEGRITY, and RESPECT is the ultimate spice! Have these traits and characters in YOURSELF and with your friends and you have the formula of a TRUE Friendship that will last a Lifetime!
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Monday, 15 October 2012
Friendship - An Emotional Relationship Between Two Persons
Friendship is a bond that exists between two people who understand each other well. Often they have same interests and trust each other to a great extent. A true friend will help his friend when it becomes necessary at any cost. Study of friendship is done on sociology, anthropology, social psychology and in philosophy.
The main manifestations of friendship are the desire to do things beneficial to the other, sympathy, honesty towards the other even in difficult situations, trust on each other for emotional support when in difficult situations and the ability to express whatever one wants to the other without fear of judgment against himself.
Friendship has been a topic for discussion even in the ancient Greek and Roman cultures. Aristotle and Plato have discussed the values attached to friendship. In many instances they have described a friend and a lover in the same vein. It was written by Aristotle that a true friend is related to his friend the same way he is related to himself.
Different values are being attributed to friendship in different cultures. In the Near East and the Far East, friendship is more demanding than in the other cultures. They are devoted and respect each other. They will do sacrifices on others behalf when it becomes necessary without considering it as an imposition.
Germans have few friends and also they don't make friends easily. This appears to people from other cultures as if they are aloof. But they make good friends. The only difference between them and others is that Germans take a long time to make friends with an acquaintance.
In Russia, people have very few friends. Normally between friends they address one another by their first names. Though Russians have fewer friends they have deeper bonds with the ones they have. Though they may have people with whom they share a drink or a meal they are not always considered friends.
In American society, the term is used freely. For them being acquainted with a person a couple of times is enough for the two to become friends. The emergence of social media sites such as MySpace and Facebook also have devalued the term as people make friends through them without even seeing one another. A recent study has shown that Americans have lesser number of friends now. The average number of friends a person has come down from 4 to 2 after 1985. The study also showed that 25% of the Americans do not have true friends.
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The main manifestations of friendship are the desire to do things beneficial to the other, sympathy, honesty towards the other even in difficult situations, trust on each other for emotional support when in difficult situations and the ability to express whatever one wants to the other without fear of judgment against himself.
Friendship has been a topic for discussion even in the ancient Greek and Roman cultures. Aristotle and Plato have discussed the values attached to friendship. In many instances they have described a friend and a lover in the same vein. It was written by Aristotle that a true friend is related to his friend the same way he is related to himself.
Different values are being attributed to friendship in different cultures. In the Near East and the Far East, friendship is more demanding than in the other cultures. They are devoted and respect each other. They will do sacrifices on others behalf when it becomes necessary without considering it as an imposition.
Germans have few friends and also they don't make friends easily. This appears to people from other cultures as if they are aloof. But they make good friends. The only difference between them and others is that Germans take a long time to make friends with an acquaintance.
In Russia, people have very few friends. Normally between friends they address one another by their first names. Though Russians have fewer friends they have deeper bonds with the ones they have. Though they may have people with whom they share a drink or a meal they are not always considered friends.
In American society, the term is used freely. For them being acquainted with a person a couple of times is enough for the two to become friends. The emergence of social media sites such as MySpace and Facebook also have devalued the term as people make friends through them without even seeing one another. A recent study has shown that Americans have lesser number of friends now. The average number of friends a person has come down from 4 to 2 after 1985. The study also showed that 25% of the Americans do not have true friends.
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Sunday, 14 October 2012
Finding Friends With Conversation Starters
We all want to have friends and to experience some kind of bond with the people around us. The problem is that many people don't realize that conversation starters are essential when it comes to finding friends. This means putting your thoughts out there and doing what you can to make that initial connection.
Imagine the people you enjoy having small talk with over the course of the day. It could be a person you pass at lunch and talk about the weather for a few moments, or it could be a person you talk to on the bus. When you engage in what people call common courtesy topics like weather and family, you are actually using conversation starters that could result in you finding friends. However, you need to continue to engage this person past this opening item to ensure that the groundwork can be laid.
One of the most important things you need to understand is that you should always have something to share. If you allow the conversation to become tedious and uninspired, the other person will disengage from the conversation and you will struggle the next time you try to strike up a conversation. Instead, try to bring up exciting topics that can hold a person's interest. If you have a mutual hobby you both enjoy, bring that into the conversation and use that as the springboard to finding friends and ensuring that you both have something you can discuss together.
If you aren't sure of how to break the ice, one of the best conversation starters is to tell a story. This could be something that is humorous that happened to you, or it can add some insight into the person you are for the individual who is listening to what you have to say. As you share this information, see what strikes them as interesting and use that information to discuss other topics that this individual may also have some interest in.
When you notice a person seems down, one of the best conversation starters will be to ask them what's wrong. If they want to open up to you, actively listen and ensure that you provide them with some sympathy. During this time, see what you can do to help them and let them know their day will get better. If they don't want to talk about it, invite them to lunch or to go and do something that can take their mind off their troubles. As you are finding friends, you are going to realize that this will be one of the best approaches you can take to forming a bond.
Life is filled with little moments where you can walk past someone and simply say hello as you pass by, or to try out some conversation starters that could result in some unique friendships. All you need is to be friendly, open and understand that people are going to be more open to communicating with you, if you take the time to show some interest and investment in having some open communication with then. The best friend you have been looking for all this time could be someone you pass by daily and never really strike up a conversation with. Take a chance to strike up a conversation today; you never know just how many friends you can make with some simple communication.
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Imagine the people you enjoy having small talk with over the course of the day. It could be a person you pass at lunch and talk about the weather for a few moments, or it could be a person you talk to on the bus. When you engage in what people call common courtesy topics like weather and family, you are actually using conversation starters that could result in you finding friends. However, you need to continue to engage this person past this opening item to ensure that the groundwork can be laid.
One of the most important things you need to understand is that you should always have something to share. If you allow the conversation to become tedious and uninspired, the other person will disengage from the conversation and you will struggle the next time you try to strike up a conversation. Instead, try to bring up exciting topics that can hold a person's interest. If you have a mutual hobby you both enjoy, bring that into the conversation and use that as the springboard to finding friends and ensuring that you both have something you can discuss together.
If you aren't sure of how to break the ice, one of the best conversation starters is to tell a story. This could be something that is humorous that happened to you, or it can add some insight into the person you are for the individual who is listening to what you have to say. As you share this information, see what strikes them as interesting and use that information to discuss other topics that this individual may also have some interest in.
When you notice a person seems down, one of the best conversation starters will be to ask them what's wrong. If they want to open up to you, actively listen and ensure that you provide them with some sympathy. During this time, see what you can do to help them and let them know their day will get better. If they don't want to talk about it, invite them to lunch or to go and do something that can take their mind off their troubles. As you are finding friends, you are going to realize that this will be one of the best approaches you can take to forming a bond.
Life is filled with little moments where you can walk past someone and simply say hello as you pass by, or to try out some conversation starters that could result in some unique friendships. All you need is to be friendly, open and understand that people are going to be more open to communicating with you, if you take the time to show some interest and investment in having some open communication with then. The best friend you have been looking for all this time could be someone you pass by daily and never really strike up a conversation with. Take a chance to strike up a conversation today; you never know just how many friends you can make with some simple communication.
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Friendship: Tough Love
I am a firm believer that good friends don't tell you what you want to hear, they tell you what you need to hear. Ask yourself how many times you sought advice, only to get pissed off about what your friends said to you. Were you really looking for advice, or were you looking for affirmations?
Get a backbone!
I'm sure you have solid friends, but solid friends won't let you perpetuate insidious thoughts that hinder your personal growth, and keep you from the things you want in life. Even if it means leading you away from them. An outside perspective allows you to see your truth, and face it head on. Good advice points out the things in you to improve, and offers suggestions on how to do it. It takes guts to make this serious introspection. And good friends will gut it out with you.
Listening is learning.
There are so many people who, when you talk to them, words go in one ear and right out the other. They aren't even listening to what you're saying, because they've already formulated their opinions or directions even before they asked for your advice. Listening is learning. Digesting ideas, and giving them credibility by allowing them to be worked out in your mind allows you to see new potential opportunities where you may not have seem them before. Ignoring them only means you'll spin your tires in the same place as before.
Tough Love!
Don't be the type of person who needs to be coddled like a child, in order for you to get the gist of what is being said to you. Yes, I understand that for many people it's the way things are said that determines effectiveness sometimes you need to get to the heart of the matter regardless of how it is presented. Life is not meant to be flat-lined. Nor is it meant to only reflect jovial components of it, while pretending negative stuff never happens. It's ying and yang. Give and take. Learn how to take the tough love, and you'll be able to appreciate the good love even more.
Life is full of ups and downs. Sometimes you need a good swift kick in the pants. Sometimes we need a good friend to shake us and yell "Wake up!" While you may find comfort in feeling sorry for yourself, empathy will quickly turn to pity, if you wallow in it. The biggest problem with people are the excuses they make. Finding good reason to move to action, instead of creating excuses not to may prove the difference to finding the happiness you truly want, or remaining in an unhappy place that you wish to change.
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Get a backbone!
I'm sure you have solid friends, but solid friends won't let you perpetuate insidious thoughts that hinder your personal growth, and keep you from the things you want in life. Even if it means leading you away from them. An outside perspective allows you to see your truth, and face it head on. Good advice points out the things in you to improve, and offers suggestions on how to do it. It takes guts to make this serious introspection. And good friends will gut it out with you.
Listening is learning.
There are so many people who, when you talk to them, words go in one ear and right out the other. They aren't even listening to what you're saying, because they've already formulated their opinions or directions even before they asked for your advice. Listening is learning. Digesting ideas, and giving them credibility by allowing them to be worked out in your mind allows you to see new potential opportunities where you may not have seem them before. Ignoring them only means you'll spin your tires in the same place as before.
Tough Love!
Don't be the type of person who needs to be coddled like a child, in order for you to get the gist of what is being said to you. Yes, I understand that for many people it's the way things are said that determines effectiveness sometimes you need to get to the heart of the matter regardless of how it is presented. Life is not meant to be flat-lined. Nor is it meant to only reflect jovial components of it, while pretending negative stuff never happens. It's ying and yang. Give and take. Learn how to take the tough love, and you'll be able to appreciate the good love even more.
Life is full of ups and downs. Sometimes you need a good swift kick in the pants. Sometimes we need a good friend to shake us and yell "Wake up!" While you may find comfort in feeling sorry for yourself, empathy will quickly turn to pity, if you wallow in it. The biggest problem with people are the excuses they make. Finding good reason to move to action, instead of creating excuses not to may prove the difference to finding the happiness you truly want, or remaining in an unhappy place that you wish to change.
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Wednesday, 29 August 2012
The Trouble With Trust
Life being what it is will always demand sacrifices from us and in truth, making such sacrifices is one of those things that make us retain all the vestiges of humanity in us even when the natural tendency is to be bestial even if for a little while.
The intriguing thing though is that sometimes we trust too much but the question is what other options are open to us? Must we look upon everyone we meet through the veneer of distrust and hate just because we have chosen to live life as loners who naturally find running away from others enjoyable? Must we choose to see only the evil in others and close our eyes to the good that is in them just because we have had some bitter experiences in the past and do not want our fingers burnt again? These are questions, questions and certainly more questions which beg for answers every day of our lives.
What happens then when our trust is betrayed by others friends and strangers alike? As passengers, we trust the operators of public transport to provide the services for which we pay them and not for them to make it a habit of stopping halfway through the journey blaming one of many possible reasons, engine-related or not. As citizens of a nation say Nigeria, we trust our elected officials and political office holders to provide us with the so-called dividends of democracy and thus make life better for us. As patients we trust our medical doctors and other medical personnel to provide us with the best health care within the ambit of their professional calling. As spouses and lovers, we trust our partners and significant others to make sure they do all the right things at the right time to sustain our relationships. As students we trust our teachers and lecturers to teach us the right things and to set good examples always.
Trust is one of the fundamental virtues of human life that we just cannot do without and whether or not our trust is kept we just must trust because that is the foundation of corporate existence in the first place. Undoubtedly the best situations are such that trust is not betrayed by the recipient but for that to be so, everyone who is trusted to do something must make sure they give a good account of themselves as far as holding that trust is concerned.
The way I see it, we must always trust in people whether or not we are going to get that trust held in high esteem. It reminds me of the enigma of love and of the possible implications of love that is unrequited. The possibilities are endless if we can all learn to trust one another and if those of us who are seen as worthy of another's trust do our best to remain true to that trust. So even if you have had bitter experiences, do not be afraid to try again!
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The intriguing thing though is that sometimes we trust too much but the question is what other options are open to us? Must we look upon everyone we meet through the veneer of distrust and hate just because we have chosen to live life as loners who naturally find running away from others enjoyable? Must we choose to see only the evil in others and close our eyes to the good that is in them just because we have had some bitter experiences in the past and do not want our fingers burnt again? These are questions, questions and certainly more questions which beg for answers every day of our lives.
What happens then when our trust is betrayed by others friends and strangers alike? As passengers, we trust the operators of public transport to provide the services for which we pay them and not for them to make it a habit of stopping halfway through the journey blaming one of many possible reasons, engine-related or not. As citizens of a nation say Nigeria, we trust our elected officials and political office holders to provide us with the so-called dividends of democracy and thus make life better for us. As patients we trust our medical doctors and other medical personnel to provide us with the best health care within the ambit of their professional calling. As spouses and lovers, we trust our partners and significant others to make sure they do all the right things at the right time to sustain our relationships. As students we trust our teachers and lecturers to teach us the right things and to set good examples always.
Trust is one of the fundamental virtues of human life that we just cannot do without and whether or not our trust is kept we just must trust because that is the foundation of corporate existence in the first place. Undoubtedly the best situations are such that trust is not betrayed by the recipient but for that to be so, everyone who is trusted to do something must make sure they give a good account of themselves as far as holding that trust is concerned.
The way I see it, we must always trust in people whether or not we are going to get that trust held in high esteem. It reminds me of the enigma of love and of the possible implications of love that is unrequited. The possibilities are endless if we can all learn to trust one another and if those of us who are seen as worthy of another's trust do our best to remain true to that trust. So even if you have had bitter experiences, do not be afraid to try again!
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Why People Are Important
If you're an introvert like me, you might know the thought that "other people aren't that important". Or at least that "friends aren't so important". And that you can be just fine (or even very happy) on your own.
So why surround yourself with people at all? And why ever make an effort to meet somebody new?
I've lived both lives: The life without people and the life with people. Both lives are able to make me happy. However, I now tend to prefer the life with people.
I mean, just look at all the advantages you got when you have people in your life:
Joy
First and foremost: People can bring an immense amount of joy into your life. Think about how good it can feel to talk to others, to laugh with others or to play with others.
Help
Of course you are fine on your own. However there are going to be plenty of situations where it would be nice if you had someone to help you with something. For example, if my family and friends wouldn't have helped me moving, I'd probably still sit in Bavaria. Or what if you're in an emotional emergency? Or in a real emergency? Wouldn't it be nice if you had people in your life?
New Perspectives
People can open up new worlds for you. At least if you let them. Every person has her or his own individual perspectives. If you are open to those perspectives, they are able to change your world. For example, my brother helped me to develop a more accurate view on politics, which now helps me to understand the world and my role in the world better.
Opportunities
People are a mine of opportunities! In fact, almost all of my career opportunities (roles in theater plays, composition jobs, gigs, writing jobs... ) came from my existing social network. But there were also a lot of non-career-related opportunities that came from my social network that made my life more enjoyable: When I had no money, people often invited me for drinks. People also sometimes set my name on the guest lists of their concerts, parties or events - that way I was able to enjoy some entertaining evenings for free or very little money.
New Energies
From the intention manifestation/law of attraction perspective, every person carries other vibrations. If you want to manifest a new intention into your life (for example "more travelling"), the manifesting process will be much faster when you surround yourself with people who already carry this energy in them. In the travel example would choose people who travel often and don't think that this is special.
Teachers
People are always teachers. They won't only teach you by what they say but also by what they do. You will learn a lot about yourself when you interact with other people. About your social insecurities and about your social strengths. Yes, even as an introvert you can have social strengths! People will teach you about trust, patience, diplomacy, justice, acceptance, love, freedom, intimacy, leadership and a lot more.
You Create Your Social Environment
If you feel like your current or former social environment can't/couldn't give you anything of the above (or not enough), you might have created the wrong social environment.
The right social environment consists of people who are compatible with you.
Compatible people are people who share something with you personality-wise: They might share hobbies or interests with you or they might share values or political perspectives with you.
Compatibility is the condition for connection. That means it's the condition for relationships that work. And compatible relationships will also give you at least some of the advantages I have listed above.
Generally I enjoy contact with all kinds of people. However, I chose very well with whom I want to spend more time with and with whom I won't. It's not because I'm arrogant. It's because I want to spend my time as enjoyable as I can - so I will always choose the more compatible relationships over the less compatible ones.
So, if you're not content with your current social network, I would suggest, you disconnect with everyone who is incompatible at first. Then start looking for more compatible people.
You don't need people who are 100% compatible with you. In fact, that would be boring. Instead look for people who are compatible with you in some areas of your life: Maybe they also like playing video games or maybe they're also into personal development.
For introverts it's often hard to find new friends. But it's something you can definitely learn. However, be prepared that you need to meet a lot of new people in order to find the really interesting ones. Creating a compatible social network is just another skill you need learn.
For Introverts
Having a big social network doesn't mean that you have to spend all your time socializing, btw. I would go crazy if I needed to do that!
I still live alone, for example, and enjoy it very much. Living alone helps me to balance my introverted with my extroverted site: By default I'm alone (introverted) but because of my big social network I can connect with people (extroverted) anytime I want to.
But even if you don't live alone you don't need to (and should not!) neglect your introverted side. Make sure that you have enough time and room for yourself every day.
If you don't do that, you might never be in the mood to socialize with anybody!
Online People
When I talk about people in this article, I don't mean people you only know over the internet. I mean people in your actual physical environment. People who can hug you, people who you can talk face to face with. An online community is never a replacement for a community of real people. So if you think you're social life isn't that bad because you spend your whole day on Facebook, read this article again (and read "real people" anytime I wrote "people").
Don't Be a Mooch
Above I listed all the beautiful things that people can bring to your life. But let me be clear: There's no taking without giving. And if you're only trying to "get" something from people, you will not only creep them out (and come off as needy) but you will also never be able to build a healthy social network.
But don't let that scare you off: The good thing about giving is that's it's immensely fulfilling! And soon you might find that the giving part is one of the biggest motivators to connect with people.
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So why surround yourself with people at all? And why ever make an effort to meet somebody new?
I've lived both lives: The life without people and the life with people. Both lives are able to make me happy. However, I now tend to prefer the life with people.
I mean, just look at all the advantages you got when you have people in your life:
Joy
First and foremost: People can bring an immense amount of joy into your life. Think about how good it can feel to talk to others, to laugh with others or to play with others.
Help
Of course you are fine on your own. However there are going to be plenty of situations where it would be nice if you had someone to help you with something. For example, if my family and friends wouldn't have helped me moving, I'd probably still sit in Bavaria. Or what if you're in an emotional emergency? Or in a real emergency? Wouldn't it be nice if you had people in your life?
New Perspectives
People can open up new worlds for you. At least if you let them. Every person has her or his own individual perspectives. If you are open to those perspectives, they are able to change your world. For example, my brother helped me to develop a more accurate view on politics, which now helps me to understand the world and my role in the world better.
Opportunities
People are a mine of opportunities! In fact, almost all of my career opportunities (roles in theater plays, composition jobs, gigs, writing jobs... ) came from my existing social network. But there were also a lot of non-career-related opportunities that came from my social network that made my life more enjoyable: When I had no money, people often invited me for drinks. People also sometimes set my name on the guest lists of their concerts, parties or events - that way I was able to enjoy some entertaining evenings for free or very little money.
New Energies
From the intention manifestation/law of attraction perspective, every person carries other vibrations. If you want to manifest a new intention into your life (for example "more travelling"), the manifesting process will be much faster when you surround yourself with people who already carry this energy in them. In the travel example would choose people who travel often and don't think that this is special.
Teachers
People are always teachers. They won't only teach you by what they say but also by what they do. You will learn a lot about yourself when you interact with other people. About your social insecurities and about your social strengths. Yes, even as an introvert you can have social strengths! People will teach you about trust, patience, diplomacy, justice, acceptance, love, freedom, intimacy, leadership and a lot more.
You Create Your Social Environment
If you feel like your current or former social environment can't/couldn't give you anything of the above (or not enough), you might have created the wrong social environment.
The right social environment consists of people who are compatible with you.
Compatible people are people who share something with you personality-wise: They might share hobbies or interests with you or they might share values or political perspectives with you.
Compatibility is the condition for connection. That means it's the condition for relationships that work. And compatible relationships will also give you at least some of the advantages I have listed above.
Generally I enjoy contact with all kinds of people. However, I chose very well with whom I want to spend more time with and with whom I won't. It's not because I'm arrogant. It's because I want to spend my time as enjoyable as I can - so I will always choose the more compatible relationships over the less compatible ones.
So, if you're not content with your current social network, I would suggest, you disconnect with everyone who is incompatible at first. Then start looking for more compatible people.
You don't need people who are 100% compatible with you. In fact, that would be boring. Instead look for people who are compatible with you in some areas of your life: Maybe they also like playing video games or maybe they're also into personal development.
For introverts it's often hard to find new friends. But it's something you can definitely learn. However, be prepared that you need to meet a lot of new people in order to find the really interesting ones. Creating a compatible social network is just another skill you need learn.
For Introverts
Having a big social network doesn't mean that you have to spend all your time socializing, btw. I would go crazy if I needed to do that!
I still live alone, for example, and enjoy it very much. Living alone helps me to balance my introverted with my extroverted site: By default I'm alone (introverted) but because of my big social network I can connect with people (extroverted) anytime I want to.
But even if you don't live alone you don't need to (and should not!) neglect your introverted side. Make sure that you have enough time and room for yourself every day.
If you don't do that, you might never be in the mood to socialize with anybody!
Online People
When I talk about people in this article, I don't mean people you only know over the internet. I mean people in your actual physical environment. People who can hug you, people who you can talk face to face with. An online community is never a replacement for a community of real people. So if you think you're social life isn't that bad because you spend your whole day on Facebook, read this article again (and read "real people" anytime I wrote "people").
Don't Be a Mooch
Above I listed all the beautiful things that people can bring to your life. But let me be clear: There's no taking without giving. And if you're only trying to "get" something from people, you will not only creep them out (and come off as needy) but you will also never be able to build a healthy social network.
But don't let that scare you off: The good thing about giving is that's it's immensely fulfilling! And soon you might find that the giving part is one of the biggest motivators to connect with people.
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The Party Pooper, The Train Wreck, and 5 Other Friends You Don't Want To Have Or Be
If only you could have a crystal ball so that you would be able to predict the reliability of your friendships with others. Unfortunately, we only have a trial and error system that comes with pain and frustration. Here are seven types of friends that spell trouble, so watch out:
1) The Party Pooper. This friend is also known as The Wet Blanket and The Bubble Buster. They seem to walk around with a rain cloud over their head that can darken even the brightest day. If you've just received a promotion at work, they'll remind you of how the corporate grind will use you up and spit you out. If you've fallen in love, they'll remind you of psycho stalkers from hell. These types of friends will not share in your happiness so you might want to keep your good news to yourself.
2) The Magician. You thought you had found your life-long best friend. Things were going great and the bond was amazing. You did everything together and then POOF, they disappeared. This "now you see them; now you don't" behavior is very hurtful as well as confusing. You'll question what you did wrong but you're baffled. When they suddenly reappear again, they have a new best friend. You feel rejected and jealous but their behavior has little to do with you. These friends are commitment phobic. They are always moving from one relationship to another. Their new best friend will be in your shoes in the near future.
"Truly great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget." ~ Unknown
3) The Train Wreck. You had no idea a person could have so many problems. This friend has you on speed dial. They will call you at all hours with problems ranging from relationship catastrophes to financial misfortune. Part of you feels sorry for this friend but another side of you is aggravated because even though they ask for your advice; they really don't want it nor do they truly listen to it. The Train Wreck is usually a very willful person who creates messes but refuses to take any responsibility.
"When you choose your friends, don't be short-changed by choosing personality over character."
~W. Somerset Maugham
4) The Promise Breaker. "I'll be there for sure. You can count on me. I won't let you down this time." But they do. This person makes a lot of promises but routinely breaks them or doesn't keep them at all. They are not reliable and won't be there when you need them. If you are guilty of this trust-breaking behavior, you should remember to promise only what you can deliver. Then deliver more than you promise. I like this quote from Norman Vincent Peale; "Promises are like crying babies in a theater, they should be carried out at once."
5) It's All About Me. You've just received bad news. You call your friend to tell them and gain their support. No sooner have you stated the situation to them, this friend says, "That's nice but guess what happened to me today?" The "It's All About Me Friend" only wants to talk about themselves. These people are very self absorbed. This is a very one sided friendship. They only listen to you because they are waiting for their turn to speak. You'll probably get more emotional comfort from talking to your plants or your dog than calling this person.
6) The Spy. These people infiltrate your life only to gain access to your assets or your information. They purposely pour on the charm to win you over. They tell you what you want to hear so that you will loosen up and spill the goods. You will notice these people ask a lot of questions and need to know everything. Their goal may be to use you to get close to someone else in your life; your boss, your sister, your dad and his connections. You'll spot these two faced deceivers by how they try to eavesdrop on your conversations and their intrusive questions to fill in the gaps of what they weren't able to overhear.
7) The One Upper. This friend is very competitive and has to be the best or at least have the best. They are typically overachievers. They tend to build themselves up by making others feel inferior. They will often show off at your expense. True friends don't have to constantly impress each other. Friendships shouldn't be based on one winning and one losing. These friends need a lot of external validation but don't realize how they aggravate others by trying to be impressive. You can spot these friends whenever you tell a story. Their version tells how they did more and were better at it than you.
"Friendship... is not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything." ~ Muhammad Ali
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1) The Party Pooper. This friend is also known as The Wet Blanket and The Bubble Buster. They seem to walk around with a rain cloud over their head that can darken even the brightest day. If you've just received a promotion at work, they'll remind you of how the corporate grind will use you up and spit you out. If you've fallen in love, they'll remind you of psycho stalkers from hell. These types of friends will not share in your happiness so you might want to keep your good news to yourself.
2) The Magician. You thought you had found your life-long best friend. Things were going great and the bond was amazing. You did everything together and then POOF, they disappeared. This "now you see them; now you don't" behavior is very hurtful as well as confusing. You'll question what you did wrong but you're baffled. When they suddenly reappear again, they have a new best friend. You feel rejected and jealous but their behavior has little to do with you. These friends are commitment phobic. They are always moving from one relationship to another. Their new best friend will be in your shoes in the near future.
"Truly great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget." ~ Unknown
3) The Train Wreck. You had no idea a person could have so many problems. This friend has you on speed dial. They will call you at all hours with problems ranging from relationship catastrophes to financial misfortune. Part of you feels sorry for this friend but another side of you is aggravated because even though they ask for your advice; they really don't want it nor do they truly listen to it. The Train Wreck is usually a very willful person who creates messes but refuses to take any responsibility.
"When you choose your friends, don't be short-changed by choosing personality over character."
~W. Somerset Maugham
4) The Promise Breaker. "I'll be there for sure. You can count on me. I won't let you down this time." But they do. This person makes a lot of promises but routinely breaks them or doesn't keep them at all. They are not reliable and won't be there when you need them. If you are guilty of this trust-breaking behavior, you should remember to promise only what you can deliver. Then deliver more than you promise. I like this quote from Norman Vincent Peale; "Promises are like crying babies in a theater, they should be carried out at once."
5) It's All About Me. You've just received bad news. You call your friend to tell them and gain their support. No sooner have you stated the situation to them, this friend says, "That's nice but guess what happened to me today?" The "It's All About Me Friend" only wants to talk about themselves. These people are very self absorbed. This is a very one sided friendship. They only listen to you because they are waiting for their turn to speak. You'll probably get more emotional comfort from talking to your plants or your dog than calling this person.
6) The Spy. These people infiltrate your life only to gain access to your assets or your information. They purposely pour on the charm to win you over. They tell you what you want to hear so that you will loosen up and spill the goods. You will notice these people ask a lot of questions and need to know everything. Their goal may be to use you to get close to someone else in your life; your boss, your sister, your dad and his connections. You'll spot these two faced deceivers by how they try to eavesdrop on your conversations and their intrusive questions to fill in the gaps of what they weren't able to overhear.
7) The One Upper. This friend is very competitive and has to be the best or at least have the best. They are typically overachievers. They tend to build themselves up by making others feel inferior. They will often show off at your expense. True friends don't have to constantly impress each other. Friendships shouldn't be based on one winning and one losing. These friends need a lot of external validation but don't realize how they aggravate others by trying to be impressive. You can spot these friends whenever you tell a story. Their version tells how they did more and were better at it than you.
"Friendship... is not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything." ~ Muhammad Ali
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Tuesday, 28 August 2012
Writing Online Articles Is a Great Way to Meet New Friends Around the Planet
After I retired, I started writing articles online, and I was amazed at how many new friends around the planet I had garnered in the first year. Now that I've been doing this for about seven years with thousands of articles, I am literally blown away by the number of people I know in countries around the world. Every time I read something in the news such as a natural disaster, I can simply e-mail a friend and ask them how things are going there. And I get the real information, not the garbage we get in the news media. Okay so let's talk about this for second shall we?
I believe the global Internet system has now brought the human race closer together, and it will prevent wars in the future, and help everyone understand each other's religions, culture, and way of life. It's amazing that people around the planet have the same fears, desires, and needs. Sometimes you wouldn't assume this by reading the newspaper or watching the news. It is nice to know the reality, and not be beholden to merely allow the forced fed media reports to jade your opinions.
Indeed, I've talked to people from New Zealand, Australia, South Pacific islanders, and people from China, Japan, South Korea, Vietnam, Singapore, and just about every other nation in that region. I talked with people from the Middle East, from Africa, and of course all through Europe. I've spoken with people from Central America and South America, and even our neighbors Canada and Mexico. I've sent e-mails to people in Russia, and even someone working on a project at the South Pole, I suppose via satellite.
How did all this transpire you ask? Well, people read articles I write, and then they contact me by e-mail. People are listening, people are talking, and people are communicating around the world. Yes, they do this on social networks, but if you will share your experiences, your dreams, and your fears in online articles, the world will respond from all corners, you will be blown away. Now then, even though I've never met any of these folks, or perhaps I never will, they have still shared with me their life experience, and added to the richness of my own.
Next time you write an online article, consider how it might open the door to a new friend somewhere around the planet, and help you to more understanding, or a new culture. You'll be glad you wrote that article, and they'll be glad to have read it. Please consider all this and think on it.
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I believe the global Internet system has now brought the human race closer together, and it will prevent wars in the future, and help everyone understand each other's religions, culture, and way of life. It's amazing that people around the planet have the same fears, desires, and needs. Sometimes you wouldn't assume this by reading the newspaper or watching the news. It is nice to know the reality, and not be beholden to merely allow the forced fed media reports to jade your opinions.
Indeed, I've talked to people from New Zealand, Australia, South Pacific islanders, and people from China, Japan, South Korea, Vietnam, Singapore, and just about every other nation in that region. I talked with people from the Middle East, from Africa, and of course all through Europe. I've spoken with people from Central America and South America, and even our neighbors Canada and Mexico. I've sent e-mails to people in Russia, and even someone working on a project at the South Pole, I suppose via satellite.
How did all this transpire you ask? Well, people read articles I write, and then they contact me by e-mail. People are listening, people are talking, and people are communicating around the world. Yes, they do this on social networks, but if you will share your experiences, your dreams, and your fears in online articles, the world will respond from all corners, you will be blown away. Now then, even though I've never met any of these folks, or perhaps I never will, they have still shared with me their life experience, and added to the richness of my own.
Next time you write an online article, consider how it might open the door to a new friend somewhere around the planet, and help you to more understanding, or a new culture. You'll be glad you wrote that article, and they'll be glad to have read it. Please consider all this and think on it.
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